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What Exactly Is Heartbreak?

Lots of things can cause heartbreak. Some people might have had a romantic relationship that ended before they were ready. Others might have strong feelings for someone who doesn't feel the same way. Or maybe a person feels sad or angry when a close friend moves out of their life. Although the causes may be different, the feeling of loss is the same — whether it's the loss of something real or the loss of something you only hoped for. People describe heartbreak as a feeling of heaviness, emptiness, and sadness.

How Can I Deal With How I Feel?

Most people will tell you you'll get over it or you'll meet someone else, but when it's happening to you, it can feel like no one else in the world has ever felt the same way. If you're experiencing these feelings, there are things you can do to lessen the pain. Here are some tips that might help:

  • Share your feelings. Some people find that sharing their feelings with someone they trust — someone who recognizes what they're going through — helps them feel better. That could mean talking over all the things you feel, even having a good cry on the shoulder of a comforting friend or family member. Others find they heal better if they hang out and do the things they normally enjoy, like seeing a movie or going to a concert, to take their minds off the hurt. If you feel like someone can't relate to what you're going through or is dismissive of your feelings, find someone more sympathetic to talk to. (OK, we know that sharing feelings can be tough for guys, but you don't necessarily have to tell the football team or your wrestling coach what you're going through. Talk with a friend or family member, a teacher, or counselor. It might make you more comfortable if you find a female family member or friend, like an older sister or a neighbor, to talk to).
  • Remember what's good about you. This one is really important. Sometimes people with broken hearts start to blame themselves for what's happened. They may be really down on themselves, exaggerating their faults as though they did something to deserve the unhappiness they're experiencing. If you find this happening to you, nip it in the bud! Remind yourself of your good qualities, and if you can't think of them because your broken heart is clouding your view, get your friends to remind you.
  • Take good care of yourself. A broken heart can be very stressful so don't let the rest of your body get broken too. Get lots of sleep, eat healthy foods, and exercise regularly to minimize stress and depression and give your self-esteem a boost.
  • Don't be afraid to cry. Going through a break-up can be really tough, and getting some of those raw emotions out can be a big help. We know this is another tough one for guys, but there's no shame in crying now and then. No one has to see you do it — you don't have to start blubbering in class or at soccer practice or anything. Just a find a place where you can be alone, like crying into your pillow at night or in the shower when you're getting ready for the day.
  • Do the things you normally enjoy. Whether it's seeing a movie or going to a concert, do something fun to take your mind off the negative feelings for a while.
  • Keep yourself busy. Sometimes this is difficult when you're coping with sadness and grief, but it really helps. This is a great time to redecorate your room or try a new hobby. That doesn't mean you shouldn't think about what happened — working things through in our minds is all part of the healing process — it just means you should focus on other things too.
  • Give yourself time. It takes time for sadness to go away. Almost everyone thinks they won't feel normal again, but the human spirit is amazing — and the heartbreak almost always heals after a while. But how long will that take? That depends on what caused your heartbreak, how you deal with loss, and how quickly you tend to bounce back from things. Getting over a break-up can take a couple of days to many weeks — and sometimes even months.

Some people feel that nothing will make them happy again and resort to alcohol or drugs. Others feel angry and want to hurt themselves or someone else. People who drink, do drugs, or cut themselves to escape from the reality of a loss may think they are numbing their pain, but the feeling is only temporary. They're not really dealing with the pain, only masking it, which makes all their feelings build up inside and prolongs the sadness.

Sometimes the sadness is so deep — or lasts so long — that a person may need some extra support. For someone who isn't starting to feel better after a few weeks or who continues to feel depressed, talking to a counselor or therapist can be very helpful.

So be patient with yourself, and let the healing begin.

one thing that is verry important if you are not over that individual do not move on because you will bring harm apon someone tha might really care for you so make sure you give it enough  time to the point were you would not feel anything if you had him near you or saw him from a distance.

As i walk down the street i can see the park out of the corner of my eye the place wher we shared so many monets spend quality time that neither one will ever come to forget it is the place that i now hate the most i hate the memories i hate the fact that i was left alone to face all the queshtions the hurt and the challenges up ahead the road on some days the feeling comes to give up but i cannot i have too much ahead to accomplish you might have left me but your sould is always near me and the beat of your heart i can feel till this day i'm sorry but the healing process has begun it will be a while but i will be whole once again and i will love again my heart feels like it will never be whole again like there is giant part of me that is gone how am supossed to deal with that i do not know the pain of your not beign by my side trough the hardest parts of my life is the worst feeling in the world specially knowing that part of it was all my fault i came back only to find you changed and too long gone i had hurt you but you just simpply did't know the truth and the day that your love stoped had been my awakening i have now promissed my self that i will not make an individual feel what i made you feel because now i kno the feeling of a broken heart by not having you by my side and it hurts more than words
can ever explain you are my haunting ghost
BY lp
A Lost Cause.
why did you leave me to wait for such a long time,
when all along you knew , i no longer meant anything to you?
i wish you had told me earlier and saved me the trauma of hanging on to a lost cause,you caused me so much pain and hurt.
and yet i tried to make myself not believe that, you had become so uncaring and disaffected, it totally shattered my dreams and made my heart sink into a pit of hopelessness,to just imagine that i was no longer your heart's desire.

i had sown a seed of love and affection, expecting it would blossom into joy and happiness. we would be together forever, but whilst i waited i realized i was going to reap tears of desolation and sorrow,
i still held on a bit longer, meaning to say goodbye , even if it meant for the last time, but still all this meant nothing to you, even though you saw how my eyes had swelled, and how my pillow was soaking wet from these tears of anguish, grief and disappointment.

a friend has told me i should take it bravely, but how do i, when this hurt
is deeper than what my face tells? i suppose i will have to take each day as it comes, now that you are out of my life
                           Somewhere in time
                           the walls of my room
                           Will no longer want to stay quiet
                           But say all my secrets.
                           My room will tell of every laughter,
                           and joy I've told them of.
                           These four walls who heard my cries at night
                           Will no longer keep quiet
                           but speak to the world
                           And so somewhere in time I will be free.


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