What Exactly Is Heartbreak?
Lots of things can cause heartbreak. Some people might have had a romantic relationship that ended
before they were ready. Others might have strong feelings for someone who doesn't feel the same way. Or maybe a person feels
sad or angry when a close friend moves out of their life. Although the causes may be different, the feeling of loss is the
same — whether it's the loss of something real or the loss of something you only hoped for. People describe heartbreak
as a feeling of heaviness, emptiness, and sadness.
How Can I Deal With How I Feel?
Most people will tell you you'll get over it or you'll meet someone else, but when it's happening to
you, it can feel like no one else in the world has ever felt the same way. If you're experiencing these feelings, there are
things you can do to lessen the pain. Here are some tips that might help:
- Share your feelings. Some people find that sharing their feelings with someone they
trust — someone who recognizes what they're going through — helps them feel better. That could mean talking over
all the things you feel, even having a good cry on the shoulder of a comforting friend or family member. Others find they
heal better if they hang out and do the things they normally enjoy, like seeing a movie or going to a concert, to take their
minds off the hurt. If you feel like someone can't relate to what you're going through or is dismissive of your feelings,
find someone more sympathetic to talk to. (OK, we know that sharing feelings can be tough for guys, but you don't necessarily
have to tell the football team or your wrestling coach what you're going through. Talk with a friend or family member, a teacher,
or counselor. It might make you more comfortable if you find a female family member or friend, like an older sister or
a neighbor, to talk to).
- Remember what's good about you. This one is really important. Sometimes people with
broken hearts start to blame themselves for what's happened. They may be really down on themselves, exaggerating their faults
as though they did something to deserve the unhappiness they're experiencing. If you find this happening to you, nip it in
the bud! Remind yourself of your good qualities, and if you can't think of them because your broken heart is clouding your
view, get your friends to remind you.
- Take good care of yourself. A broken heart can be very stressful so don't let the
rest of your body get broken too. Get lots of sleep, eat healthy foods, and exercise regularly to minimize stress and depression and give your self-esteem a boost.
- Don't be afraid to cry. Going through a break-up can be really tough, and getting
some of those raw emotions out can be a big help. We know this is another tough one for guys, but there's no shame in
crying now and then. No one has to see you do it — you don't have to start blubbering in class or at soccer practice
or anything. Just a find a place where you can be alone, like crying into your pillow at night or in the shower when you're
getting ready for the day.
- Do the things you normally enjoy. Whether it's seeing a movie or going to a concert,
do something fun to take your mind off the negative feelings for a while.
- Keep yourself busy. Sometimes this is difficult when you're coping with sadness and
grief, but it really helps. This is a great time to redecorate your room or try a new hobby. That doesn't mean you shouldn't
think about what happened — working things through in our minds is all part of the healing process — it just means
you should focus on other things too.
- Give yourself time. It takes time for sadness to go away. Almost everyone thinks
they won't feel normal again, but the human spirit is amazing — and the heartbreak almost always heals after a while.
But how long will that take? That depends on what caused your heartbreak, how you deal with loss, and how quickly you tend
to bounce back from things. Getting over a break-up can take a couple of days to many weeks — and sometimes even months.
Some people feel that nothing will make them happy again and resort to alcohol or drugs. Others feel
angry and want to hurt themselves or someone else. People who drink, do drugs, or cut themselves to escape from the reality of a loss may think they are numbing their pain, but the feeling
is only temporary. They're not really dealing with the pain, only masking it, which makes all their feelings build up inside
and prolongs the sadness.
Sometimes the sadness is so deep — or lasts so long — that a person may need some extra
support. For someone who isn't starting to feel better after a few weeks or who continues to feel depressed, talking to a
counselor or therapist can be very helpful.
So be patient with yourself, and let the healing begin.
one thing that is verry important if you are not over that individual do not move on because you will
bring harm apon someone tha might really care for you so make sure you give it enough time to the point were you would
not feel anything if you had him near you or saw him from a distance.
As i walk down the street i can see the park out of the corner of my eye the place wher we shared
so many monets spend quality time that neither one will ever come to forget it is the place that i now hate the most i hate
the memories i hate the fact that i was left alone to face all the queshtions the hurt and the challenges up ahead the road
on some days the feeling comes to give up but i cannot i have too much ahead to accomplish you might have left me but your
sould is always near me and the beat of your heart i can feel till this day i'm sorry but the healing process has begun it
will be a while but i will be whole once again and i will love again my heart feels like it will never be whole again like
there is giant part of me that is gone how am supossed to deal with that i do not know the pain of your not beign by my side
trough the hardest parts of my life is the worst feeling in the world specially knowing that part of it was all my fault i
came back only to find you changed and too long gone i had hurt you but you just simpply did't know the truth and the day
that your love stoped had been my awakening i have now promissed my self that i will not make an individual feel what i made
you feel because now i kno the feeling of a broken heart by not having you by my side and it hurts more than words
can ever explain you are my haunting ghost
A Lost Cause.
why did you leave me to wait for such a long time,
when all along you knew , i no longer meant
anything to you?
i wish you had told me earlier and saved me the trauma of hanging on to a lost cause,you caused me so
much pain and hurt.
and yet i tried to make myself not believe that, you had become so uncaring and disaffected, it totally
shattered my dreams and made my heart sink into a pit of hopelessness,to just imagine that i was no longer your heart's desire.
had sown a seed of love and affection, expecting it would blossom into joy and happiness. we would be together forever, but
whilst i waited i realized i was going to reap tears of desolation and sorrow,
i still held on a bit longer, meaning to
say goodbye , even if it meant for the last time, but still all this meant nothing to you, even though you saw how my eyes
had swelled, and how my pillow was soaking wet from these tears of anguish, grief and disappointment.
a friend has
told me i should take it bravely, but how do i, when this hurt
is deeper than what my face tells? i suppose i will have to take each day as it comes, now that you
are out of my life
Somewhere in time
the walls of my room
Will no longer want to stay quiet
But say all my secrets.
My room will tell of every laughter,
and joy I've told them of.
These four walls who heard my cries at night
Will no longer keep quiet
but speak to the world
THEY WILL TELL THE WORLD HOW MUCH I'VE SUFFERED
THEY WILL TELL THE WORLD OF THE THINGS THAT MAKE ME SMILE
And so somewhere in time I will be free.