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"Love is giving someone the ability to hurt you, but trusting them not to!"
Trust is an essential element to any relationship. Once that trust has been abused it takes a special couple to be able to find their way back. In this guide we'll take a look at all of the different angles of an affair -- from being the other woman to getting caught in the act. You'll also read expert advice on how to prevent affairs, and if you're caught in the middle of an infidelity, how to rebuild your relationship.
 

The Rules To Love: Preventing Affairs

Being involved with someone else means:
a) you are engaging in a physical intimate relationship with someone outside of your current one and/or
b) you are engaging in a mental intimate relationship with someone outside of your current one and/or
c) you have an emotional interest (from the past or present) towards someone outside of your current relationship.

RULES OF LOVE: AFFAIRS

Do NOT become involved with another person if you are currently committed to someone else. Don’t bend the situation to justify your actions. If the person you are with expects you to be with only them, then do that.

If you become interested in someone else:

  1. Cease all contact with them until you have resolved the problems with your current relationship.

  2. Find out why your interest towards your current partner has waned.
    a. Are you spending enough time with each other?
    b. Are you looking for an escape or a start over type relationship because of too much bad history?
    c. Has an outside interest allowed you to think less of your partner?

  3. Decide whether this is repairable.
    a. Have you talked about your problems?
    b. Can you find a solution through an outside source?

  4. If repairable, do what is necessary to properly fix your current problems and take measures to avoid them from happening again.

  5. If not, repairable, leave your current relationship.
    a. Do not see the person you were interested in for at least 30 days after you are on your own again.
    b. If you still feel you may be truly interested in starting a relationship with this person make sure you take things slowly and that you have truly discovered what factors contributed to the demise of your previous relationships. You don’t need to keep making the same mistakes repetitively.

After An Affair: Checklist

Even with the best of intentions you may be not be emotionally ready to confront the events that have transpired. Use this checklist to help determine if your relationship can be repaired.

When you think about the events that have happened you find yourself more resentful towards your partner.
If you answered yes to this question, take some time to determine why this is the case. Have you told the truth about everything? Are you holding on to emotions you don't need to? Do you feel unacknowledged about something? Are you trying to make your partner feel as bad as you do? Be honest with yourself when looking for your answers. You will need to come to terms with your feelings before you can move forward.

You feel that your partner may not be telling you everything.
A yes answer to this indicates a lack of trust, or a lack of honesty. In either case you'll need to resolve why you feel this way before you can begin to repair your relationship.

You don't feel you'll be able to trust your partner again.
Trust is a crucial element to any relationship. If you can't find a way to rebuild the trust, you won't find a way to rebuild your relationship. Recognize this and let your partner know. At this time your paths may be meant to go in different directions.

This is not the first time you have experienced infidelity with this partner.
While a first break in trust can be overlooked, and eventually repaired, a pattern of mistrust is something that needs a closer evaluation. Don't set yourself up for a cycle of emotional abuse because you are unwilling to let this person go.

Your partner does not wish to make amends.
No matter how much history you have in this relationship, if a partner does not want to be involved don't get caught up in the trap of trying to bring them back. Talk with each other about the reasons, and if they are still intent on leaving, let them go. You never want to be in a situation where one person doesn't love the other with the same commitment.

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My Partner has Cheated on Me

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Handling Infidelity

If what you suspect does in fact turn out to be true, then they really have to make a choice and decide which relationship they are going to pursue. One point that needs to be made here is that in no circumstances should you settle for anything less than a 100% commitment either way from your partner.

Now, in order for them to make a choice, there are a few things that your partner is going to have to honestly evaluate. Have them think about the following questions and then come back to you with a decision.

  1. What does the other person really want?
    What are their true intentions? When doing this, it is important that your partner trusts his or her own feelings, instincts and experiences with that person.

  2. Evaluate the other relationship.
    What is the person like as a partner? How do they really treat your partner? Is there a possibility of a lasting relationship? Decide on whether it is a good relationship or not.

  3. What does your current partner want?
    What are your current partner's true intentions? What do they really want in a relationship?

  4. Evaluate the current relationship.
    Is this a good relationship? Does it fit the description of the kind of relationship you want? Do they really love you and can you see a future? Was it something in the relationship that caused your partner to stray?

  5. Make a final choice.
    At this point your partner has to look at all of the data in front of them and make a final choice. If they decide to stay with you, it is up to you to decide whether you can accept it or not. From that point on, you are effectively starting again in the relationship. A broken trust is hard to mend, but not impossible. As long as you are completely honest with each other and work at the relationship, you can overcome any hurdle that crosses your path.


love can be an awsome thing if it is an honest love

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